Maria Victoria is a Senior Product Manager at TpT. Originally from Panama, MV has spent the last decade between California and NYC developing in her career as an Engineer, Strategy Consultant, VC investor, and PM. She currently lives in Brooklyn as a happy mama to baby Teo and wife to her husband Charlie
Fortunately, TpT has responded to this challenge by instituting a number of supportive policies for working parents, not least: increased flexibility around working hours, distributing responsibilities across the team where possible, and providing opportunities for group support through Slack and other remote means. Our work at Teachers Pay Teachers is more vital than ever as we help teachers across the country access resources to support distance learning -- and hopefully in the process, provide some relief to parents!
For other working parents struggling with the very real challenges of balancing parenting with professional responsibilities, I would offer a few suggestions:
First, communicate your challenges. When you've been an all-star employee but suddenly have trouble committing to anything more than the baseline, your team may not immediately understand the sudden "availability change" or be aware of everything that's happening behind the scenes. It's important for team members (particularly those without children) to understand that it's not a question of personal willpower or efficiency managing schedules. It's a mathematical impossibility. In our house, even with an extremely well behaved infant and my husband contributing as much as he can, the reality is that childcare is a full time job and there are simply not enough hours in the day to contribute in the same way. By proactively communicating with my team at TpT and emphasizing what I currently have capacity for given the circumstance, I know that I am doing what's best for my team, my family, and myself.
This too shall pass: know that this is temporary. The world has changed and it may not go back to normal for some time, but the current period of maximum social distancing won't last forever. It can be difficult to accept yielding to the demands of parenting over professional advancement in the short term. However, I've continued to remind myself that the current crisis is impermanent and that these tensions should abate somewhat when it is deemed safe enough to allow for childcare services to resume. Routinely carving out a couple of minutes a day to take care of myself and "hit reset" has been most helpful to keep this perspective top of mind. This can be anything from 5 minutes of breathing to 30 minutes of yoga (when I manage to squeeze it in, baby crawling underneath me and all!).
Keep moving forward. At the end of the day (which is often sometime in the late evening), I know I'm providing as much effort as I can for both our child and TpT. While it is impossible to strike the ideal balance in the current circumstances, I'm incredibly grateful for the support Teachers Pay Teachers (and my team in particular!) has provided. Our mission of unlocking the collective wisdom of teachers is more important than ever, and I couldn't be more grateful to be part of that effort -- before, during, and after this storm passes.
Until then, continue to maintain social distance, wash your hands frequently, and remember to go easy on yourself -- you're doing what you can, and that has to be enough!